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Comment on Crazy Idea by Alicia

Alicia — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 07:38:26 +0000

Sometimes in life I’m not bold enough. I say go for it.

Comment on Friends by Kimberly

Kimberly — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 05:47:19 +0000

I pretty much agree with what everyone else has said. I do think that we are so busy and for me I have such little time with my Husband that all my spare time goes to cultivating that relationship.
I agree with natalie too, that nobody has enough time to sit and judge other people, if they do, they are probably the superficial people that you don’t want to waste time being friends with anyways :)

Comment on Friends by Wendi Johansen

Wendi Johansen — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 06:49:28 +0000

With my close friends from high school, we try to get together once a month. We often invite one couple at a time if they are casual friends. That way you have more one on one time. We love to get together. We keep saying we should hang out. We need to schedule a date. Fiona, you have friends that love you. You are a great friend.

Comment on Friends by Natalie

Natalie — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 19:21:13 +0000

I think it is just this stage of life. Going to the gym and interacting with people there is about the extent of my social life. Or seeing people when I drop off/pick up for our preschool carpool.

As my life has gotten busier I’ve found I’ve had to really decrease the amount of time I spent with friends. It’s sad but also part of growing up. I still try to get out with friends every few months but my main priority is spending time with my husband and kids.

I have occasionally felt paranoid about people judging me but then realized that most people have better things to do that sit around and think about me. I’m not sure if that makes you feel better or worse :) … I meant it in a good way.

Comment on Friends by Jessica

Jessica — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 02:42:05 +0000

I miss my Orem friends because I felt like we consistently did fun things together. Most of us didn’t have kids though so we didn’t have to worry about babysitting, etc. Out here, I like doing a monthly couple game night so the husbands can also get together. I think everyone goes through this.

Comment on Friends by Ruth

Ruth — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 02:20:17 +0000

I have struggled with this even before marriage and motherhood. I think, for me, I just lack the social and conversational skills. Before I was a mother, when I was working full-time, I considered several of my co-workers good friends, and thoroughly enjoyed talking with them at work. But the few times we tried to do things together outside of the work environment, it was just awkward. I think I have church friends at church, culdesac friends on my culdesac, and work friends at work. Just the way I roll, I guess. :/

Comment on Friends by Alicia

Alicia — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 00:24:18 +0000

It probably means you need to move back to AZ. Sorry, I had to say it.

But I completely know what you mean. I struggled for about 2 years to feel connected to other women. Having a baby helped the most (since my ward didn’t have childless career women in it).

So these are some things I’ve learned about making grow-up friends. It’s seems consistency is the key. My friend that seems the most popular has a play group every Tuesday. I mean every week. It turned into a bigger thing and then a bigger thing. It seems exhausting, but she makes treats and all the kids come over and it makes us feel like close friends.

Eric and I have a couple friend that we have FHE with every week. Some weeks I’d rather not have the big group over, but the habit of it keeps us close.

So find a friend and get together all the time and before you know, you’ll have a mommy club or a couple friend. And just in case you were wondering, it always seemed like you had these new Utah friends and I still hang out with Lisa and Kelly. So I’m surprised to hear this. But you can call me and vent or talk any time. I love you even far away!

Comment on Friends by Clarissa

Clarissa — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 23:59:02 +0000

I sure hope it’s normal, because I feel the same way too! I have people that I see and talk to, but no one (outside of my family)that I feel super close to or who I would just call to chat with or to hang out with. I miss our game nights, because that was about as social as I’ve been since starting a family.

Comment on Friends by Emily

Emily — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 21:29:29 +0000

I still read! I know how you feel. People don’t want to go out of their usual routines. Getting together with friends is too hard, or something. We move so much, I like to blame not having friends on that. I doubt people are judging you. But in sorry you feel like people don’t want to get to know you!

Comment on Friends by Fiona

Fiona — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 21:18:00 +0000

Yes! That is probably a huge part of it! It’s like facebook and blogging give us this false sense of friendship. It kinda works for me, but at the same time, kinda doesn’t.

Let’s do something for sure! I miss you guys!